Today we see different kind of people around, us
One of such people are who try to control us and manipulate us, bible talks so many secrets about these kinda of people. We have to be very careful about this kind of people they.
Controlling person plays head games, in order to hide this major fault that they have may remove holiness from you, by controlling your life,
Where you may go off track to god, Be extremely cautious of them at all times.
If you are a strong, secure person, you may over time start to feel a bit weird about how you can never be correct in much of anything around this person, especially if it is a topic that the person feels confident of knowing. Listen to these feelings; they are there to guide you. If you don’t listen to them now, in a decade or so you might be a former shadow of the person you were supposed to become. Don’t let that happen to you.
If you are being isolated or pushed into spending time with only “their” family and friends, that can show a lack of respect for your feelings or wants
Friends, If you find yourself constantly “giving in” to the other person on things that matter to you, then you are not being yourself but are being controlled
Controlling people will often feign kindness to obtain the things they want. Never let the “nice” behavior fool you, just ignore them and move on.
If you find yourself changing your interests to those of the other person or giving up former hobbies or friends, you are probably in a controlling relationship.
The longer that you allow other people to control you, the weaker you may become. In time, this weaker self may become your new personality and it can be dreamlike to remember your former strong self.
These are the general factor , we can see, ,BUT , what Bible say about these, that’s the important point we need to understand. We as the children of god we need to follow the words of god. And what it says . be prayer full and continue contact with god , so that he give wisdom to avoid these kind of situation and keep us away from evil and save people who try to manipulate and control,
Keep praying , Friends and keep watching around for traps devil put for you,
Now let’s meditate, what bible Says
Genesis 4:1-26 :Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, “I have gotten a man with the help of the Lord.” And again, she bore his brother Abel. Now Abel was a keeper of sheep, and Cain a worker of the ground. In the course of time Cain brought to the Lord an offering of the fruit of the ground, and Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat portions. And the Lord had regard for Abel and his offering, but for Cain and his offering he had no regard. So Cain was very angry, and his face fell.
Exodus 20:1-26 :And God spoke all these words, saying, “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. “You shall have no other gods before me. “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me,
1 Timothy 5:8 -:But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
James 1:26 -If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.
Galatians 4:17 :They make much of you, but for no good purpose. They want to shut you out, that you may make much of them.
Proverbs 25:26 :Like a muddied spring or a polluted fountain is a righteous man who gives way before the wicked.
Romans 13:4 :For he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.
Controlling and Manipulative People
We find these people all through the Bible from Genesis to Revelation
(NLT) Judges 16:15-17 Then Delilah pouted, “How can you say you love me when you don’t confide in me? You’ve made fun of me three times now, and you still haven’t told me what makes you so strong!” So day after day she nagged him until he couldn’t stand it any longer. Finally, Samson told her his secret…
Controlling and manipulative people can be dangerous. People who try to manipulate us are usually close acquaintances. Also, the people we manipulate and control, or attempt to, are usually close to us. Most often, the people who succeed in manipulating us are people we care about and maybe love and the people we manipulate are usually the people who care about or love us. So
We are usually talking about handling people we probably care greatly about.
How do we HANDLE CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING PEOPLE?
(1) Knowing their tool helps 1) Treats 2) Guilt
Controllers and manipulators love to use threats. There is a feeling that if you do not do what that person wants, they will “punish” you. There is a fear of saying, “No” to them
i.e like we see Delilah used guilt on Samson
(2) You must RECOGNIZE YOU ARE BEING CONTROLLED AND MANIPULATED
You would be surprised at how many people do not realize it. They have been controlled and manipulated for such a long time that the “doormat” life is normal. They have settled into that lifestyle. You must recognize you are being controlled and manipulated. Once Jesus was explaining to the disciples how he would be arrested, beaten, and crucified. This brought out control and manipulation in Peter.
Matthew 16:22-23 Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. “Never, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to you!” Jesus TURNED and SAID to Peter, “GET BEHIND ME, SATAN! YOU ARE A STUMBLING BLOCK TO ME; YOU DO NOT HAVE IN MIND THE THINGS OF GOD, BUT THE THINGS OF MEN.”
Most manipulating people do their controlling and manipulating in private. They do not want others to know they are CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING and it is easier to CONTROL AND MANIPULATE a person in private.
(3) The third thing we learn in HANDLING CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING PEOPLE is, after recognizing you are being controlled and manipulated,
VERBALIZE IT AND PHYSICALLY EXPRESS IT. Say something like, “This is not going to work on me.” You have to do it with a little attitude. The Bible says, “Jesus turned and said to Peter…” with attitude. He called Peter Satan and told Peter to get out of his face! Get behind me Satan! Is it accurate to say that controlling and manipulating is satanic? Jesus looked at Peter eye to eye and told Peter he was Satan to him.
IF YOU ALLOW SOMEONE TO CONTROL AND MANIPULATE YOU, YOU ARE COMMITTING SIN. IT IS IDOLATRY.
Exodus 20:3-5 You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them…
When you are doing the will of someone else and not doing the will of God, it is idolatry. You are bowing to their will instead of God’s will. You cannot do God’s will when you allow people to control and manipulate you. You are actually dysfunctional for God and for yourself. You are a puppet waiting for your master to pull your strings.
What happens when you refuse to allow people to control and manipulate you? CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING PEOPLE do not like to be “handled.” This is especially true when you have been their doormat for a long time. They squeeze harder when you reveal their satanic attempts. They are used to getting their way, so when you get an attitude, sparks will fly. They pull out their tools – threats and guilt – and go to work on you. They yell, scream, curse, threaten, and put guilt on you. You are tempted to bow to that idol because that is what you have always done. If you say, “This is not going to work on me,” be ready, because things will get worse before they get better.
(4) The fourth thing needed to HANDLE CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING PEOPLE is REDEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP
Jesus told Peter that he Peter was not going to be a “stumbling block” to Jesus. Concerning the things of God, Jesus said, “get behind me.” Jesus said let me redefine our relationship. Do not interfere with my purpose. If you are not going to walk with me to accomplish this then get behind me. Oh, and by the way Peter, I am the leader, not you.
WHEN HANDLING CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATING PEOPLE, YOU MUST LET IT BE KNOWN THAT YOU ARE MORE INTERESTED IN PLEASING GOD THAN PLEASING THE CONTROLLER/MANIPULATOR.
Galatians 1:10 Obviously, I’m not trying to be a people pleaser! No, I am trying to PLEASE GOD. If I were still trying to please people, I would not be CHRIST’S SERVANT.
Friends Hope this was useful and Blessed to all, Uphold me in your prayers,